three simple but very powerful words .
my son and i working together last night on my jobs talked about this very subject.
i told him that although my witness mom was always affectionate , and tells me and my siblings she loves us , my elder father has only told me that he loves me once or twice , if that - my entire life.
Yes, they did. Both my parents were affectionate and I hugged and kissed my dad everyday, and we always hugged and kissed each other good night. He's gone now, but whenever I see my mom, we hug and kiss each other, tell each other we love each other.
My hubby on the other hand, didn't have that. His mom hugs you, but he just hugged his father for the first time this fall, and he iniatiated it. His father has never told him he loved him, his mom rarely. It's very odd for an Italian family.
BB
if it was me, i'd rather have the truth up front.
i went through an experience where someone didn't tell me the truth about a situation, thought that by not being totally honest, my feelings would be spared.
maybe at the time, they were, but afterwards when i found out the truth i was deeply hurt and confused.
After growing up in a congregation where everyone would tell each other exactly what they thought of you, but never to your face, I'll take up front honesty any day. Just show a little tact.
You too eh? lol
if it was me, i'd rather have the truth up front.
i went through an experience where someone didn't tell me the truth about a situation, thought that by not being totally honest, my feelings would be spared.
maybe at the time, they were, but afterwards when i found out the truth i was deeply hurt and confused.
BB, tell me the truth, I can take it.
Philip
Philip,
You are one of the most beautiful people I have ever had the honour to call a friend. That is the truth!
BB
if it was me, i'd rather have the truth up front.
i went through an experience where someone didn't tell me the truth about a situation, thought that by not being totally honest, my feelings would be spared.
maybe at the time, they were, but afterwards when i found out the truth i was deeply hurt and confused.
I'd always want the truth no matter how difficult it is to hear.
My sentiments too f2t, thank you. A&W - I'm so sorry you had to experience that! I'm sure if you had known he was seeing and professing his love for another woman at the same time as you, that your decision to try again would have been totally different. This is the kind of thing that really hurts someone. Thanks for all your responses. I agree, the truth is the best, no matter how much it hurts, but done in a kind, tactful way. BB
if it was me, i'd rather have the truth up front.
i went through an experience where someone didn't tell me the truth about a situation, thought that by not being totally honest, my feelings would be spared.
maybe at the time, they were, but afterwards when i found out the truth i was deeply hurt and confused.
If it was me, I'd rather have the truth up front. I went through an experience where someone didn't tell me the truth about a situation, thought that by not being totally honest, my feelings would be spared. Maybe at the time, they were, but afterwards when I found out the truth I was deeply hurt and confused.
I felt a double betrayal when I found out the truth from someone else. I made life altering decisions based on false information.
What would you do in a similar situation - lie and hope the person never finds out, or be upfront and honest, no matter how hard it might be?
BB
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=knp9-gy6fhe&feature=related.
thanks to both of you for being there for me.. love yas,.
We'll see if we can turn this St. Patty's day party into another smooch fest!!! Woo hoo! BTW ... 19 liters of Irish Stout, and 23 liters of green pilsner should get us through the night!!!
Kwin
ha ha ha, and by my records, you owe me a smooch too (or is it the other way around? )
We are both looking forward to it!
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=knp9-gy6fhe&feature=related.
thanks to both of you for being there for me.. love yas,.
Thanks all for the well wishes!
Uzzah - the St Paddy's day party is coming up soon and I fully intend to collect all those hugs and smooches you owe me! lol
Dagney - It was so wonderful finally meeting you! Lots of good memories (and pics!) from Toronto. Will be thinking about you today as well!
BB
our congregation likes bums on seats.. one sister recently said, "if you're not able to be regular for whatever reason, they treat you like you have leprosy.".
this is true in my case - i am an active fader - i haven't been out on service since last summer, i don't attend book studies but.
i am married and have to support my wife lest she get these pity looks from the friends.. elders and their wives ignore me - some even talk to my wife while i'm next to her but ignore me.. it's weird - i think maybe some resent my freedom from the program - the freedom to just turn up or leave half way through the talk.. i don't really deal with it - i don't know what to say.. .
An MS stood in front of the coats and would not let me get mine. He only stepped aside when my husband came along and got my coat for me.
What good to these so called "brothers" think they are doing with things like this and not talking to people at the hall?
Sheesh, sorry you and your daughter had to go through that - really makes you want to go back again doesn't it???
BB
our congregation likes bums on seats.. one sister recently said, "if you're not able to be regular for whatever reason, they treat you like you have leprosy.".
this is true in my case - i am an active fader - i haven't been out on service since last summer, i don't attend book studies but.
i am married and have to support my wife lest she get these pity looks from the friends.. elders and their wives ignore me - some even talk to my wife while i'm next to her but ignore me.. it's weird - i think maybe some resent my freedom from the program - the freedom to just turn up or leave half way through the talk.. i don't really deal with it - i don't know what to say.. .
Elders and their wives ignore me - some even talk to my wife while I'm next to her but ignore me.
This could be something you use to discontinue going to the rest of the meetings. Tell your wife it just hurts you too much to sit there and be ignored. Is this offering you encouragement to WANT to be at the meetings? This is really unloving behaviour. If they really wanted you to attend the meetings, they would be love bombing you at the meetings you are at.
Lack of love is what makes most people leave.
Can you feel the love?? NOPE
Good luck!
BB
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=knp9-gy6fhe&feature=related.
thanks to both of you for being there for me.. love yas,.
Aaawwwww Will (and everyone), what a NICE thing to see this morning! Thank you so much! We love you all.
BB & Mem
